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5 Quick Tips to Make Things Work With Your College Roommate

Living with a roommate can be hard. This college student has tips for fellow students on how to live life and make things work with your new roommate.

Starting college is a difficult experience, but even more so when you’re moving into a new place away from home. There’s a large possibility that you’ll end up with a roommate during your time at school. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing! I had my own room throughout high school, so I was excited to branch out and see what it would be like to have a roommate after I graduated. Here are my top tips for finding a college roommate and making it work once you’re living together.

1. Look into your college housing system

The first step to making things work with your roommate is to take control of what you can by having a part in choosing the right one. At my college, we have a randomized roommate system unless you choose to pick someone you know or someone the school suggests to you based on your compatibility levels. Other colleges may have their own system, so it’s always recommended to do your research. If you still have questions, don’t be afraid to call the housing office at your school.

Related: Top Ways to Prepare for Life With Your New Roommate

2. Ask the important questions

College is full of new things, and you'll likely have a never-ending stream of questions. Some of these questions may revolve around your new roommate. We all hope our roommates will become our friends, but first and foremost, we have to live with them. Ask them how they like to keep their room, what their sleep hours are, if they sleep with music or lights on, etc. Asking these trivial-seeming questions allows you and your roommate to understand the circumstances you'll be living in and can help you co-exist in your tiny space. You may even want to make a roommate agreement at the beginning of the semester to lay everything out from the start.

3. Be open about issues that can impact your living arrangement

Everyone is coming from a different place in life and society, so it’s essential to take all precautions to ensure that you and your roommate feel comfortable in the place you’re going to be living together. Discussing possible difficulties such as allergies, aversion to meat, and other preferences and pet peeves can prevent a host of uncomfortable conversations down the road. You can discuss details like this in the aforementioned roommate agreement. Don’t make it an attack on the person; just tell them how you feel and ask if they can eat or do this thing in another location. Their needs are important, but so is your comfort, so compromise is key.

Related: Living the Sweet Dorm Life: 8 Roommate Communication Tips

4. Develop a strong relationship with your resident advisor

In all the student buildings on campus, we have an array of resident advisors we can talk to about any issues that we may encounter on our floors. Whether it’s a personal or general problem, it’s the RA’s job to help you get through your time in the dorms. Don’t be afraid to use them as a sounding board or mediator when you and your roommate can’t resolve an issue on your own.

5. Remain flexible when problems arise 

It’s inevitable that living with another person won’t be butterflies and rainbows all the time. So when problems occur that need to be solved, it’s a good skill to have to be flexible and compromising so that both you and your roommate can feel like they belong. Ultimately, treat others how you want to be treated, smile often, and communicate!

Related: 6 Ways to Keep the Peace When You and Your Roommate Aren't Friends

It’s impossible to avoid all the problems that may arise while living with a roommate, but with a bit of intentional thought, you can smooth out the edges of your new relationship from the beginning. You may be good friends with them and you may just be roommates, and both are okay as long as you both make the effort to ensure your unique situation is the best it can be. No two people are alike, and no roommate situation is going to be exactly alike either. Find what works for you and your roommate for a happy campus life!

For more articles and advice on how to find a good roommate, communicate well, solve problems, and more, check out our "roommates" tag.

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About Elica Marcellin

Elica Marcellini is an Afro-Caribbean/West Indian student who has lived in St. Lucia, England, Barbados, the US Virgin Islands, Georgia, and New York and attended Cornell University to puruse Englisha and Psychology. Elica enjoys reading, writing, playing volleyball, and doing school service projects.

 

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